Marriage Counseling: Finding Grounds For Marriage
What do these celebrities have in favorite?
Britney Spears and Jason Allen Alexander
Robin Givens and Mike Tyson
Lisa Marie Presley and Nicolas Cage
Carmen Electra and Dennis Rodman
Seeking a divorce in picture time!
There are always headlines about the latest celebrity couple that is splitting up. They spout a variety of reasons from trivial to serious for their divorce. However, it seems that looking for grounds for divorce is their first option rather than conflict resolution.
Let’s Work It Out
A unusual poll conducted by the MarriageAdvice website found that 56% of the respondents would rather try and work through the jam of an unfaithful spouse, than divorce them as their first option.
The poll asked, “What Would You Do If You Discovered Your Spouse Was Cheating On You? ” Of the 751 respondents, 37% said they would accept marriage counseling, 19% said they would forgive their spouse, and 37% said they would stare a divorce.
So how do we maintain our marriages intact when a spouse has committed one of the greatest sins in the marriage commandments?
What Is The Value Of Your Marriage Investment?
Beth Young, Senior Editor at the MarriageAdvice website responded, “When an unfaithful spouse has trampled their marriage vows, it will be difficult to trust them for a long time. Whether we have invested a few months or decades into our marriage relationship, we need to seriously reflect the value of our investment.”
Young comments, “If we value our relationship, then we are less likely to scrutinize at divorce as the first option when facing the heartache of an unfaithful spouse. Although there is NEVER any justification for infidelity, this could act as a wake up call to try and resolve why the spouse was looking elsewhere.
The Value Of Counseling
In a review conducted by psychologist, William M. Pinsof and Lyman C. Wynne, they concluded that considerable data existed to encourage the efficacy of family and couples counseling.
In fact, 75% of couples receiving therapy are better off than similar couples who do not receive therapy.
Young concluded, “After this painful mistake is worked through, and precise efforts are made by both spouses, they may secure that their marriage is stronger and their communication powerful better.
Of course, I’m not suggesting that infidelity is a agreeable diagram to strengthen your marriage, but the steps taken to repair the marriage are of value at all times in any marriage.”
It should warm our heart to know that the majority of the respondents are willing to work through this serious threat to their marriage and secure relationship advice rather than throw in the towel.
In the wise words of Robert Anderson, “In every marriage more than a week traditional, there are grounds for divorce. The trick is to procure, and continue to gain, grounds for marriage.”
September 26th, 2010 by admin | No Comments »